I must admit the opportunities to blog are few and far between as I struggle daily to wear fifteen different hats effectively. It’s only been a few weeks since my last update but in this inch that lies between success and failure, it may have well been a year. Oh what can happen in a short span of time, yet as we are living it we often feel impatient and frustrated when we don’t see the results in the bold strokes we imagine. I have been working on this project now for more than two and a half years, seven days a week. To many people, especially those who measure success in either money or within the framework that a tangible and finitely measured result must be achieved…to these people I have failed. But if success is measured by having the courage to set out on a mission, no matter the opposition , without any guarantees or even probabilities…with absolutely nothing more than an unshakable belief that you could and should do it…than I am one of the most successful people I know.

This mission, this dream and profound belief that I have decided to make the focus of my life has caused me to say to people again and again that I am happier now than at any point in my life. Each time I say this, my husband looks at me with an unspoken question or comment…”Are you kidding?” I know him well enough to know that he struggles in his own mind to validate this message coming from the mouth he often sees rigid with stress or too tired to turn up in a smile. Yesterday, I was finally able to articulate why I can say that and mean it even in circumstances that do not support the message. Happiness can have a headache.

This journey so far has been a challenge to say the least. We set out without much of a roadmap; under resourced and with a myriad of other hurdles to overcome. Some, we saw coming; others caught us by complete surprise. Every day has been a lesson, mostly in hard knocks. But we are learning and growing in our mission and as individuals. We are selling enough books to survive and keep moving forward but not enough to do some of the things we “want” and “need” to do like wrapping the bus and producing a soft back version of the book. I am becoming an accomplished speaker and honing this new found craft in preparation of the larger audiences I know that I will one day have. Nothing quite as humbling as arriving at a speaking event you planned your calendar around to find an audience of four, nor as thrilling as being able to hear a pin drop as you stand in front of one hundred and fifty. Either way, I give it my all with the belief that if I inspire one person, I can effectively impact hundreds more. As Peb Jackson, one of the founders of Focus on the Family reminded me, “My dear, what you are doing is planting seeds.”

This is what I cling to when the road ahead looks bleaker than I imagined or when the results of my efforts leave no visible impression. I am planting seeds and I don’t need to worry or burden myself with which seeds grow or which ones wither away…my role is simply to plant the seeds. I share this message each and every time I speak because when you are asking people, living in a time of immediate gratification, to roll up their sleeves and join the fight: the good fight, you must also prepare them for the reality that the effort they make may not necessarily result in change they can see. They need to be prepared that their efforts may seem futile and small and their role insignificant…that it is not what we can accomplish today by these efforts that matters as much as we can accomplish years from now by making these small gestures today. When it comes to changing the world, the ego must be parked as you likely will not get credit for the change or even be alive to witness it. I know this and accept it, but feel important and significant to have any role at all in such an important process.

Never before was this awareness greater than it is now. A few remarkable things happened to set up the “best day” so far. On Tuesday, we finally managed to fly Tim’s nest. We had extended our few days of refuge in his home to four weeks. Tim’s generosity seemed infinite and our appreciation felt inadequate but we all knew it was time to leave. It was time to cope without the conveniences of using Tim’s truck to get around and his house to spread out in. Se we left for the sake of leaving. We didn’t have anything scheduled for a week but figured we’d park at a beach and get ourselves caught up. We had been running at it hard with little time to breathe for the past two months.

Literally, as we pulled away and only moments after putting the address of Dockweiler’s RV Park in my Blackberry navigation system, I received an email from the Culver City Rotary Club asking me if I could possibly speak on short notice the next day. They’d had a cancelation. I responded that I could and decided to worry about the logistics later: the absence of Tim’s truck formulating inconvenient questions in my mind. Once we found our way to Dockweiler’s, I entered a new address into the navigation system, this time the meeting place of the Culver City Rotary Club. Words cannot tell you how pleased we were when it told us we were only six miles away. Instead of having to get to this presentation in a thirty-nine foot bus with everybody on board in L.A. traffic and then deal with parking, we could hop in a taxi without fear of the fare. I felt God and it felt good.

We parked, got ourselves situated and then enjoyed some time with the boys before going for a run. OK, I confess, Brock ran and I walked, but as I walked I thought about someone I hadn’t seen in a long, long time, my Godfather, Jim “Mudcat” Grant. I was so excited to get back to the bus and drum up his number in order to call him and invite him to my presentation. I didn’t expect to find him in town…he rarely was. To my surprise he was in town, and cancelled a few appointments to join us for lunch at the Rotary Club meeting. Seeing him again reminded me of how time seems to race by and stand still at the same time, how things can seem both unchanged and different and that certain things are forever…the simple things that make us who we are, regardless of which way we travel from your house to mine.

Mudcat was older and walked with a cane but he still looked strikingly handsome and gave off an unmistakable aura that said “I am important and I can tell you stories that you won’t believe.” This aura was always there from when I was three and we first met to eight years ago when I had seen him last. It was never conveyed in smugness or ego but rather through a self confidence that comes from knowing who you are and where you are going. I noted to myself that I recognized this now only because I finally understand who I am and where I am going, though the actual route remains a mystery. The one thing that stood out most to me was that I felt the same pride I had always felt in his presence, the pride of a little girl in the presence of a great man. I was nervous as I rose to speak realizing how much I wanted him to be proud of me, more importantly that it was “designed” that he would be there on this day and that this was the day that a seed planted 43-years ago was going to be recognized. As I delivered a speech that I had given dozens of times before I looked out and saw Mudcat, his glasses perched on his nose looking up at me and then down at my book while I spoke with the same passion and conviction that he had lived his life, I realized it was meeting him that had first inspired me. I delivered a speech that was neither my best nor my worst but I delivered it to a person who had a profound impact on my life…something  that I did not realize nor I imagine did he until that very moment. I sold nineteen books that day which in our world is a windfall and Mudcat was there to witness people buy multiple copies, one woman buying eight. For a book costing $64.95 in a bottomed out economy, this is more remarkable than it might sound. Mudcat was proud of me and I was proud that he was there.

We spent the rest of the afternoon together talking about the time that had past and recounted to Brock the story of how we met: the story of a black man befriending a little white girl on her way home from Des Moines, Iowa to Orange County, CA. Today, this wouldn’t make for much of a story but forty-three years ago things were different. Mudcat was a pitcher with the Oakland A’s and while the world was beginning to accept and celebrate the talent of African American ball players on the field and in some circles off the field, it was not ready to accept a black man walking through the Salt Lake City Airport with a little blond girl on his shoulders and two other blond girls holding either hand. My sisters and I, three, four and eight years old were flying home from visiting our Grandparents. Flying unaccompanied was nothing new as our father was a pilot for Western Airlines. On this particular flight we shared the plane with some major league ballplayers. As the story has been told by Mudcat hundreds of times, I was sitting on the aisle seat across from him with my sisters in the other two seats. When I began to talk to Mudcat, I was elbowed and reminded “We are not supposed to talk to strangers.” Coming from my oldest sister who can still intimidate me today, it should have carried more weight but I was young and foolish. I asked Mudcat “What is your name?” when he replied Mudcat, I triumphantly turned to my sister and said “His name is Mudcat, he’s not a stranger.

Later I asked him if he would color with me and when he accepted my brave invitation, I crawled into his lap with a Mr. Magoo coloring book and a box of crayons. As I colored, he held the crayons giving me whatever color I asked for as it was needed. When I had colored everything but the skin, I abruptly closed the book announcing that I was finished. He immediately said “No you’re not, you forgot to color the skin.” He then watched me look from his very dark arm to my light arm and then to the extremely light arm of Charlie Finley in the next seat and then back to his arm and then the box of crayons. After careful consideration I resolved my dilemma and asked him with conviction for the color orange. Mudcat told this story again and again over the years as a lesson in diplomacy taught by a child. Mudcat was in our lives on and off throughout the years and even sang at each one of our weddings, but he and I had formed a special relationship that continued even after everyone else fell out of touch. Eventually, we fell out of touch as well, but for an infrequent phone call or visit. The impression he made on me was indelible. I look back now, fresh from our 8 hour visit yesterday, and realize that he had planted a seed unbeknownst to both of us over 4 decades ago in the heart of a little girl who would one day become a published author and artist. Meeting Mudcat at the impressionable age of three during a time when African American ballplayers were not allowed to date white women or stay in certain hotels set my future into motion.

Always the “different” child in my family, I guess I related to the concept of struggling from the outside even at a very young age. At the age of nine I read Sammy Davis Jr.’s autobiography “Yes I Can” and did my first portrait in Crayon. Today I am the author/artist and publisher of a book that challenges what is tolerated with what is right. Mudcat and I have rekindled an important relationship and will be staying in touch and doing speaking events and book signings together as he has also authored a book, The Black Aces. Our subjects might be different, his baseball and the struggles and strides made by African American players and mine the children globally who suffer from human rights violations, but our message is the same. We are each a small part of humanity playing a role that at some future time will have greater significance. Don’t waste life looking and waiting for the results. Life is about planting the seeds. The harvest will come later.

We are at last in Southern California…Yeah!!!  When I left So Cal at age 28, it was with a belief I would never want to come back. I’m now realizing, California is in the blood and it’s good to be home.

We left Arizona after I spoke at the Mesa Baseline Rotary Club and dropped some books off at East West Exchange Bookstore in Chandler. We drove pretty much all night pulling into Huntington Beach at about midnight and then drove around for a couple of hours looking for a place to park where we could access water. The RV parks were closed and gated for the night, so we came up empty. Eventually we just pulled over to sleep on a side street. By now we were both frazzled and I didn’t sleep believing at any moment a cop would pull over and tell us to move. Additionally, I had a 7:00AM Rotary Club presentation and was stressed with the realization I wouldn’t be able to shower. Brock has a hard time understanding why I can’t roll with things more, but I was the one that would be standing in front of these people and I really needed to wash my hair. I was grubby, tired and really cranky.

I have to hand it to Brock though. In spite of his not understanding why washing my hair was critical, he gave finding a place for me to shower a pretty good effort…even offering the security people at the RV parks 20.00 to just let me run in real quick. When he stopped in the middle of Pacific Coast Highway and told me to run across two lanes of traffic at 5:00AM while it was still pitch black to sneak into a beach shower…well this is pretty much when I lost it. We ended up in a carwash hooked up to a spicket. I did shower and as exhausted as I was, I delivered a pretty good speech.

After the Rotary we headed inland to find our friend Tim Gonzales as he had offered to let us stay at his place for a few days and we were pretty excited. When the motley four of us walked into Joshua Christopher’s Salon, where he works in Fullerton, he was surprised as he hadn’t really been told exactly when we’d be arriving or that in addition to the two kids, there was the dog and soon…a nanny. Details Brock…never forget the details.

He gave the boys and Brock haircuts and transformed me completely with new highlights and a style. He really is the best stylist and I held out long after I was due for a cut just to get a bit of his magic. We left the salon walking just a little taller and headed over to his house.

He came home shortly after to step into his natural role of host extraordinaire…and that he is.

We had an incredible dinner and a few more drinks than we probably ought to have had. Actually we needed it as the chance to unwind had been long overdue for both of us. Just being there…here…we haven’t left, is more than a needed break from the bus, its a chance to spend some time with one of the nicest, most generous people we know. Tim is amazing, his house is beautiful, his heart is warm and he goes to great lengths to make you feel welcomed not as guests but as family. We couldn’t feel more blessed.

Last night he bonded with the little guys by making cupcakes for the new nanny while Brock and I went to the airport to get her. Hallelujah, Becky is here and she is perfect for the job!

When we got home from John Wayne Airport in OC, the boys had made a beautiful assortment of cupcakes, Tim was still alive and his house no worse for the wear. I’m pretty sure it had seen some chocolate but he had it all cleaned up and appeared to have been a perfect nanny while we were gone. He made Becky feel right at home and the boys went crazy over her…I’m sure the sugar amplified their enthusiasm, but suffice it to say they LOVE her!

The boys fueled by sugar and the excitement of a new pal, fought bed time but eventually we all found our heads on a pillow. Later…one little head found its way back off the pillow.

The cupcakes had more power than any of us anticipated. In the middle of the night we found Cruz crying upstairs in the kitchen…he didn’t want to be anywhere BUT THE KITCHEN. Eventually we got him back to bed only to wake up to find that instead of coming straight into our bed for the morning cuddle session, he was waiting at the top of the steps like it was Christmas morning.

Sometimes the angels among us bring out the devils within us. Tim had created Cupcake Hell…but we love him and the boys think he’s God.

Our break to rejuvenate is over and now its time to get back to work. Stay tuned as we take on So Cal!!!!!!

Ok, so for those who know the “Story Behind the Story,” you’ll understand when I say that yesterday and today so far has been a “chalk one up for the opposition” kind of day.

For those, who are now puzzled, let me just say that there has been an ambitious opposition in my way since I first began this project. At times it manifests in ways that defy logic and other times it could be chalked up to bad luck…I know better.

Recently, someone told me that there are three stages to acknowledging evil (as in a force not a person). The first is when we think we are so highly educated and therefore very much in control of everything that happens…both good and bad. I know a lot of these people.

The second stage is when you encounter evil as a force working against you and realize just how powerful it is. In this stage it is common to be afraid and then rationalize staying out of its way…which puts you back into the proximity of stage 1.

The third stage is when you have encountered evil, acknowledged it and its ominous power and refuse to retreat…instead deciding with absolute conviction that while yes, evil is big and powerful, GOOD is ultimately the greatest power. Once here, you are now among those fighting the good fight. Let me tell you, it’s a great place to be regardless of the beatings the opposition might give you.

So yesterday, we took our beating and hated every minute of it. First, the slides wouldn’t retract on the bus rendering us stuck. We called a taxi in an effort to make sure I wouldn’t miss the Rotary Club meeting I was scheduled to speak at.  A minute after calling the taxi the slides decide to work. I didn’t get my Starbucks, but I wasn’t late either.

The Prescott Rotary Club was wonderful, in that they were mostly very elderly men, funny, kind and warm. One especially old gentleman led us in song. We sang “Home On The Range”, “Battle Hymn of the Republic” and another that fails to come to mind. It was refreshing and lots of fun to see these gentlemen so animated. Unfortunately as fun as it was, between that meeting and the others in Arizona, we sold less than ½ the books we needed to sell and are currently pretty close to broke. Not to worry, I’m praying hard and will be in church tomorrow in Phoenix.

After the Rotary meeting, we had someone come out to see if they could fix the refrigerator which hasn’t worked since we got on the bus and the generator. No luck…not his specialty…big surprise.

So we moved on down the road back to Phoenix thinking whatever we needed in the way of repairs, we could find it there. On the way out of the RV site, Brock’s week-old laptop took a dive off what should have been a secure perch if not for the rut in the road. It still works but it bears an ugly scar as a reminder. Next, and I mean within minutes, my strap that is attached to my Verizon internet stick, got hung up on something and the stick completely broke off.

We got to Phoenix then went grocery shopping which is when we realized just how lean we were running. This is when our spirits began to sink from the customary “damn the torpedoes” attitude. Somberly, we drove to our spot at a nearby RV park and went about the routine of “getting situated.” This routine includes leveling the bus (necessary to avoid little inconveniences like blood rushing to you head while you sleep on a slope) and extending the slides. Well, neither worked. The real pain in this is not the extra space provided when the slides are extended or having the bus actually not running up or downhill to any degree, but the fact that many of the drawers are only accessible when the bus is extended. I was dressed warm for the chill of the Prescott morning and now found myself uncomfortably hot in the Phoenix desert. The boys clothes were also out of reach and they were both little grub trucks at this point.

The last thing to crush my spirit was when my favorite glass cross that I was wearing around my neck suddenly slid off. My heart broke watching it shatter on the floor. It was at this moment that I realized I had let my guard down. The opposition was alive and well and I needed to pray and pray hard.

Today hasn’t been great (The slides still won’t extend) but we are bearing down in order to weather the beating without losing faith. It might be muffled for a moment under the strain and stress, but it’s still there. As for the opposition…I’ll give you yesterday, and I might even give you today but I sure as hell won’t be giving you tomorrow.

The challenges continue daily, but we are definitely getting better at diffusing them from crisis to benign irritants. On Friday we were delayed from leaving Golden, CO for six hours waiting for a repair to be done. We had to drive all night in order to be in Albuquerque the next morning, so we were a bit stressed. We ended up treating ourselves to a night in a hotel because, once again, the water wasn’t working on the bus. Bugs, bugs, bugs.

Albuquerque to be honest was not my favorite place. We did meet a few incredible people…Maria and Nick from Whole Foods and Kent Ponder an extremely interesting man and professor of linguistics. I am always in awe of how before I leave each place, even those that don’t result in any measurable success; I know exactly why I was there. I am convinced that I was in Albuquerque specifically to meet Mr. Ponder…so ponder that.

We decided that we desperately need a nanny on this trip with us. Brock felt that I should put an ad on a nanny site and I honestly thought he was out of his mind to think that anyone worthwhile would come on this crazy adventure for the next 10 months for 250.00 a week. Within 24 hours we had 49 applicants, a dozen of which were highly qualified and 6 of whom we really, really liked. Go figure. We couldn’t find a qualified nanny to save our lives when we were living in a beautiful 4,000 square foot home in Evergreen, Colorado. We made a decision on who we are hiring and are just waiting to find out if she can start when we need her…yesterday…Ok, latest end of March.

As you are probably realizing about now, these blogs will act as a trip journal…sometimes serious, sometimes entertaining…but always real.

So here are the funnies so far. As a person with an advertising background, I always notice both incredibly good and incredibly bad (or odd) billboards. The two that stuck out so far (one in Albuquerque and one in Arizona ~ the part that still looks like Albuquerque) are:

A billboard for Cracker Barrel restaurant that went like this: A visual of a big spoon of corn…yes niblets with a headline that reads “Coming up Fresh.” Now I don’t know about how other people read this but for us “corn” and “coming up” when you are on a bus with kids…well it didn’t work.

The other one was a billboard that said ” 241 Fake Discounts” I got it…the whole knock off’s for sale, but they really didn’t do well with the wording.

The classic line of the day however, came from the mouth of a babe named Cruz. We were at an absolutely horrible Chinese restaurant on Route 66 (I know we deserved it) and we were all reading our fortunes. Of course Blaze at 4 can’t actually read but he pretended and made up a fortune that sounded believable. Cruz decides to follow suit and holds his up and reads it. His words exactly “You will soon have a wet diaper.”We laughed ourselves to sleep in a very barren landscape…but we laughed and woke up happy.

I am in awe of this journey. Sometimes I’m not sure how I got here but I like where I’m going. I’m in awe of the people we meet, the best and the worst. I am in awe of how close I feel to Brock after so many things that tried hard to tear us apart. I am in awe of my kids and feel lucky to know that if you keep your eyes open and your heart as well, you will find a gem in every day no matter where you are or what you have.

God Bless